Quickly, right to the point ‘Jan’ (pseudo-name) uttered: “What do you think of the birth control pill?” I answered: “I am totally against it, for several reasons. You see, we live in a ‘sex-obsessed’ society. (cf: www.LifeSiteNews.com / http://www.lifesitenews.com/news/the-pointlessness-of-pornography ) The pill or condom gives the man the selfish opportunity to treat his girlfriend of the moment like a ‘plaything’, an ‘object’ of pleasure. He selfishly ‘uses’ her, gets the sexual pleasure he wants and leaves. Is that the way you want to be treated, Jan?”
Also the pill and condom have a significant failure rate (cf: http://www.contracept.org/risks.php and http://ca.shine.yahoo.com/blogs/shine-on/birth-control-failures-more-common-women-think-study-193603467.html . Abortion centres count on this failure rate for repeat business. When you get pregnant—what do you think is ‘Plan B’ for birth control? (Pause) An abortion! Because sexual pleasure was wanted, but not a baby! Most women who have abortions are not told the ‘truth’ about the horrific consequences they will experience and suffer, such as spiritually, psychologically and physically. (cf:http://www.priestsforlife.org/articles/abortionachoiceagainstwomen.html )Jan, speak to women who have had abortions such as women who belong to ‘Silent No More’ (http://www.canadasilentnomore.com ) They have ‘been there, done that’ and will give you an earful of sobering truth about the consequences of abortion. Believe me, Jan, you will suffer bigtime if you have an abortion.”
Then Jan spurts out: “But what if I want to get laid!” Just then, the other teen who had been listening very attentively spoke up. Monica (pseudo-name) said to us with a heavy voice: “I am against the Pill. I used to take it and it made me a very promiscuous person. I became a prostitute for a whole year!” I could sense that Monica deeply regretted her past and was determined to change her lifestyle.
This prompted me to say as I looked at Jan: “Jan, if I may, I am going to speak from the point of view of a young ‘virgin’, which is very rare these days.” Jan laughed. I continued: “As a virgin you are looking for a man who will treat you with ‘respect’ and not demand sex from you until he loves you enough to marry you. Then you will have a marital partner you can trust and truly love and start a family with. This is true love.
I suggest you look up and read Pope John Paul II’s “Theology of the Body”. He explains so well how a husband and wife are to respect and truly love one another within the context of pre-marriage and married life. (cf: http://www.ewtn.com/library/papaldoc/jp2tbind.htm )
Then Jan asks me: “What kind of a Christian are you? (She probably saw the small Cross pinned to my coat) I responded: “I am Catholic. I met ‘Jesus Christ’ as my ‘personal Saviour’ in 1975. I have never been the same since this encounter with Jesus. I’ve witnessed miracles and the “Word of God’ has come alive for me, speaks deeply to my heart and soul—I’ve discovered God’s Love and Mercy for me more and more each passing day. (cf: http://striveforheavennow.ca/to-jesus-through-mary-2 )
Having said that I turned to Jan and sincerely said: “I will pray for you Jan, that you don’t go the promiscuous way you seem bent on experiencing—you will go through Hell if you do.” Towards the end of our conversation I could sense Jan having second thoughts and as for Monica I made sure to let her understand that God can turn ‘sinners’ into ‘Saints’. And I gave Saint Augustine, who had led a very promiscuous life, as an example. ( cf: http://www.catholic.org/saints/saint.php?saint_id=418 )
It was a most important verbal exchange with these two teens who held such opposing viewpoints regarding the Pill and sex-obsessions. The one who had ‘been there, done that’ and deeply regretted it, looking to change her life and the other who is seriously considering joining the ‘sex-obsessed society. I hope and pray for Jan, that she will reconsider and that something I said will help her ‘reconsider’.
I would like to mention briefly to Jan and other like-minded people like ‘Jan’ what ‘John Jalsevac’ once said recently in his eye-opening article “The Pointlessness of Pornography” (http://www.lifesitenews.com/news/the-pointlessness-of-pornography
He said: “For without God (emphasis mine) we will continue our frantic searching for the thing that will satisfy, a search that will be continually frustrated because there is nothing on earth that can satisfy.” John was echoing Saint Augustine who said:
“You have made us for Yourself, O Lord, and our heart is restless until it rests in You.”
Donald Andre Bruneau,
Jan 25, 2013.