Not born Gay!
Proof is so abundant that gays are not ‘born gay’. It is a ‘choice’, a learned behaviour. I will provide some documentation herein.
From ‘Homosexuality and Hope’ by ‘The Catholic Medical Association’ I quote Dr. L. Hatterer, who wrote ‘Changing Homosexuality in the Male’ (1970):
“Those promoting the idea that sexual orientation is immutable frequently quote from a published discussion between Dr. C.C. Tripp and Dr. Lawrence Hatterer in which Dr. Tripp stated: ‘there is not a single recorded instance of a change in homosexual orientation which has been validated by outside judges or testing. Kinsey wasn’t able to find one. And neither Dr. Pomeroy nor I have been able to find such a patient. We would be happy to have one from Dr. Hatterer.’” (Tripp & Hatterer 1971) They fail to reference Dr. Hatterer response:
“I have ‘cured’ many homosexuals, Dr. Tripp. Dr. Pomeroy or any other researcher may examine my work because it is all documented on 10 years of tape recordings. Many of these ‘cured’ (I prefer to use the word ‘changed’) patients have married, had families and live happy lives. It is a destructive myth that ‘once a homosexual, always a homosexual.” It has made and will make millions more committed homosexuals. What is more, not only have I but many other reputable psychiatrists (Dr. Samuel B. Hadden, Dr. Lionel Ovesey, Dr. Charles Socarides, Dr. Harold Lief, Dr. Irving Bieber, and others) have reported their successful treatments of the treatable homosexual.” (Tripp & Hatterer 1971)
Another excellent source of information is the organization ‘NARTH’ which means ‘The National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality’.
At the link below you will find this excellent article: “New Study Confirms Homosexuality Can Be Overcome: Findings Indicate That Those Who Want To Change Sexual Orientation Can Be Successful.”
In this study Narth states that “If you want to CHANGE your homosexual orientation, YOU CAN, through intense therapy and a strong desire to change.”
In this new study, May 17, 1997, NARTH released the results of a study conducted among 860 individuals struggling to overcome homosexuality and the more than 200 psychologists and therapists who treat them. The data for the survey was tabulated by professionals at Brigham University.
What follows are the significant findings of this new study done by NARTH:
“Among the study’s significant findings is a documented shift in respondents’ sexual orientation, as well as the frequency and intensity of their homosexual thoughts and actions. Specifically, the survey indicated:
“Before treatment, 68 percent of respondents perceived themselves as exclusively or almost entirely homosexual, with another 22 percent stating they were more homosexual than heterosexual. After treatment, only 13 percent perceived themselves as exclusively or almost entirely homosexual, while 33 percent described themselves as either exclusively or almost entirely heterosexual.
“Although 83 percent of respondents indicated that they entered therapy primarily because of homosexuality, 99 percent of those who participated in the survey said they now believe treatment to change homosexuality can be effective and valuable.
As a group, those surveyed reported statistically significant decreases following treatment in the frequency and intensity of their homosexual thoughts, in the frequency of masturbation to gay pornography, and in the frequency of their homosexual behavior with a partner. Respondents also indicated that, as a result of treatment and sexual orientation changes, they were also improving psychologically and interpersonally.
Of the psychotherapists surveyed, 82 percent said they believe therapy can help change unwanted homosexuality. They further indicated that on average, one-third to one-half of their patients had adopted a primarily heterosexual orientation.
“And more than 95 percent of the psychotherapists said they either strongly agreed or somewhat agreed with the statement that homosexual patients may be capable of changing to a heterosexual orientation.
“At the time of the survey, 63 percent of participants indicated that they were still in treatment, having spent an average of three and one-third years (or 42 sessions) in therapy up to that point. Of the primarily Caucasian sample, 78 percent were men, 22 percent were women, with an average age of 37. Over half of the participants had never been married, and approximately one-third were married. Almost 90 percent of survey’s respondents had a college education.
Joseph Nicolosi, co-founder of NARTH, states the great importance of this new study when he said:
“Clearly this research validates homosexuality as a psychological condition, rather than a genetic or hereditary one,” said Nicolosi, calling previous studies of the brain and genetic material the work of gay political activists. ‘As a result,’ he continued, ‘we must not turn our backs on those individuals who want to find a way out of homosexuality.’”
Please visit NARTH website and they will be of tremendous help for you who are seeking a way out of ‘homosexuality’.
Ex-Gays? Scientific study on ‘change’ of homosexual orientation
Another excellent Scientific study named “Ex-Gays?” was done called: “On ‘Change’ of Homosexual Orientation By Way Of Christian Ministry, ‘Exodus International’.” by Stanton L Jones, Ph.D., and Mark. A. Yarhouse, Psy. D.
George. A. Rekers, Ph.D. and Professor of Neuropsychiatry and Behavioral Science Emeritus (c.f: Review of “Ex-Gays?” A Longitudinal Study Of It: Religiously Mediated Change In Sexual Orientation.”) said this about the study:
“This study demonstrates with convincing SCIENTIFIC EVIDENCE that the Christian Ministry interventions of EXODUS INTERNATIONAL produced strong and clinically meaningful changes in homosexual orientation in a large percentage of individuals. Furthermore, this careful clinical research investigation of a significant number of individuals yielded no evidence to support the common assumption that attempts to change sexual orientation cause harm or psychological distress.” (c.f: www.narth.com/docs/rekersrev.html )
Courage: A Catholic support group to help homosexuals live a Christ-centered and chaste lifestyle.
“Groups such as “Courage and Encourage” call people such as homosexuals to change, to conversion, to what the scripture calls METANOIA–a radical reversal of their ordinary way of acting. Courage supports this need for change by a direct appeal to the teachings of Christ and by total dependency on His grace.” (c.f: The Truth about Homosexuality:The Cry of The Faithful, Rev. John F. Harvey, OSFS, 1997)
It is only through a ‘conversion’ to Christ that the homosexual can change. “If therefore the Son shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed.” (John 8:36)
‘Courage’ has the following five goals as their compass in their ministry to the homosexuals:
The following Five Goals of Courage were created by the members themselves, when Courage was founded. The goals are read at the start of each meeting and each member is called to practice them in daily life.
- To live chaste lives in accordance with the Roman Catholic Church’s teaching on homosexuality. ( Chastity )
- To dedicate our entire lives to Christ through service to others, spiritual reading, prayer, meditation, individual spiritual direction, frequent attendance at Mass, and the frequent reception of the sacraments of Reconciliation and Holy Eucharist. (Prayer and Dedication)
- To foster a spirit of fellowship in which we may share with one another our thoughts and experiences, and so ensure that no one will have to face the problems of homosexuality alone. (Fellowship)
- To be mindful of the truth that chaste friendships are not only possible but necessary in a chaste Christian life; and to encourage one another in forming and sustaining these friendships. (Support)
- To live lives that may serve as good examples to others. (Good Example/Role Model)
Various support groups to help homosexuals ‘change’.
Courage’ is not the only Support Group. It lists , many support groups for homosexuals. You only have to go to their website…www.couragerc.net and you will find sites such as:
Beyond Gay, Sexual Authenticity, The National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality (NARTH), Homosexuals Anonymous, International Healing Foundation,Jonah, People Can Change, Christianity and Homosexuality, Pure Passion, Stonewall Revisited, Straightway, Dr. Consiglio’s H.O.P.E Ministry-Resolving Homosexuality Program, One by One, www.Ex-Gay Links, Mastering Life Ministries, Witness, Living Hope Ministries.
If you wish to read about Testimonies of Homosexuals who left the Gay lifestyle I suggest you go to www.couragerc.net and read the Testimony of David Prosen: “Breaking Free From Homosexuality”: One Man’s Journey To Life In Christ.” Along with David Prosen’s testimony there are many others on the website. These men no longer suffer the feeling of ‘isolation’ and ‘of being alone’.
The causes and healing of homosexual attractions and behaviours
In order to discuss the causes and the healing of homosexual attractions and behaviors I will make reference to an excellent article titled:’The Origins and Healing of Homosexual Attractions and Behaviors’ by ‘Richard. F. Fitzgibbons, M.D. in the book by Rev. John F. Harvey, O.S.F.S, ‘The Truth About Homosexuality:The Cry of the Faithful.’.
Dr. Fitzgibbons was director of the Comprehensive Counselling Services, West Conshohocken, Pennsylvania, U.S.A. He completed his residency in psychiatry at the hospital of the University of Pennsylvania in 1976 and has engaged in private practice of psychiatry for over two decades.
The following statement by Dr. Fitzgibbons explains his successful experience in the healing of homosexuals by combining psychiatry and reliance on God on the part of the homosexuals. He states:
“In my clinical experience over the past 20 years, I have witnessed the resolution of the emotional pain that caused homosexual temptations and behavior in several hundred males and females. Their process of healing occurred first, through insight-oriented psychotherapy to identify the origins of their conflicts and then through the use of forgiveness and Catholic spirituality. Such a treatment approach is similar in ways to the employment of spirituality in treatment of substance abuse disorders. In fact, major breakthroughs were made in the management of addictive disorders only after a reliance on God was made the cornerstone of the treatment plan. Prior to that time, traditional psychotherapy alone resulted in minimal improvement. The use of Catholic spirituality in the treatment of homosexuality follows a similiar pattern.”
In his article DR. Fitzgibbons explains what are the causes, the origin of homosexual attractions and the deadly behaviors. He describes it as follows:
“The most common conflicts at different life stages that predispose individuals to homosexual attractions and behavior are loneliness and sadness, mistrust and fear, profound feelings of inadequacy and a lack of self-acceptance, narcissism, excessive anger, sexual abuse in childhood, and a lack of balance in one’s life coupled with overwhelming feelings of responsibility. During times of stress these inner difficulties are activated.
In an attempt to seek relief or to escape from this unconscious emotional pain, strong sexual temptations and behavior can occur.
This dynamic of inner emotional suffering leading to homosexual desires and activity rarely can begin during childhood, but usually it develops in early adolescence. However, adult life may be the first time for the emergence of this disorder.” (pg 308)
Dr. Fitzgibbons explains in great detail that ‘loneliness’ is the big cause of homosexuality. The loneliness one feels from not having received the proper love and attention as a child from both the mother and father, is one of the most painful of all experiences and is the major reason for the extraordinary promiscuity in the homosexual lifestyle.
This shows us the paramount importance of every child’s need to be raised in a traditional family atmosphere with both the love of the FATHER and the MOTHER, the MALE and the FEMALE sex. This is the ‘natural way’ that God meant for it to be. It is not natural for a child to be raised by parents of the same sex. Also when either the mother or the father is absent during the childhood years it causes great problems to the child in regards to homosexuality, as Dr.Fitzgibbons states in his article.
Now, to discuss the ‘healing’ approach that Dr. Fitzgibbons recommends. He strongly believes from personal medical experience that: “only God’s love is powerful enough to overcome the painful loneliness and sadness, insecurities and fears by providing a feeling of being deeply loved, special and safe at every stage. As the emotional wounds are healed, homosexual attractions and behaviours diminish and eventually disappear.” (pg 324)
Dr. Fitzgibbons goes on to point out that when only psychotherapy is used as a treatment method the cure rate is ‘minimal’ but when psychotherapy is ‘combined’ with forgiveness and Christian spirituality the recovery rate is phenomenal. He states:
In regards to the success of psychotherapy in treating homosexuality, in 1962 Bieber (Bieber, Homosexuality: A Psychoanalytic Study, 1962) reported a cure rate from psychoanalysis of 27 percent. A recent survey of 285 psychoanalysts who had treated 1, 215 homosexual patients revealed that 23% of their patients changed to heterosexuality. (H. MacIntosh, “Attitudes and Experiences of Psychoanalysts in Analyzing Homosexual Patients,” Journal of the American Psychoanalytic Association, 42 (1995) 1183-1207) These traditional treatment approaches did not utilize either a process of forgiveness for resolving the inner resentment or Christian spirituality and meditation for the sadness, low self-esteem and mistrust. In marked contrast, when forgiveness and Christian spirituality are essential parts of the treatment, it has been my clinical experience that the recovery rate from the emotional pain and subsequent homosexual behaviour approaches 100% in those who are truly committed to the process.” (pg 324, The Truth About Homosexuality, Fr. John Harvey)
Donald Andre Bruneau,
February 6, 2015.